Finding Calm in Chaos

The term “Social distancing”, recently coined in the COVID phase is possibly a misnomer; considering the distancing that we already have in our lives. What we can implement is a physical separation let alone from a cognitive perspective. Gone are those days when we used to forcibly bond with people or relatives just for the sake of maintaining relationships. However, the lock-down separation seems to affect, just because its imposed upon us. Even if it weren’t the case, people are seldom able to excavate their souls and bring out their feelings with their family now-a-days. A chronic loneliness lies within each of us which is not realized unless we sit back and reflect. The entire objective of starting and/or having a family takes a backseat eventually and we must uphold the society wheel. Our parents say, quote,” The journey does matter, not the destination”. What if we are just eyeing destinations, and forgetting to enjoy ourselves during the journey? Maybe sometimes, we need to reevaluate if this is how we wanted to live or will be living going forward. It’s never too late to change ourselves /our living situation for that matter. Maybe we can connect with ourselves better in some other role as well, thereby balancing our life and filling the void in our souls. Generally, there are a host of factors contributing to this situation of “Cognitive unawareness”.

a.   - Generation gaps culminating from late pregnancies

b.  -  Marrying someone with different ideologies and/or tastes

c.    -Demanding workplace scenario

d.   - Not-to-mention the work from home situation post COVID-19.

Its’ strange how I feel at ease and not-so-lonely, even after being on my own, spending time in my balcony 3 months since the lock-down now. On the other hand, even people living with their own tend to feel lonely at times. The recent events since Sushant Singh Rajput’s death have sort of touched the society’s nerve. There were tons of similar situations before; However, this particularly affected the masses not just because they could relate with the tussle at workplace, when one has high objectives and somehow, they don’t get fulfilled because of nepotism or other factors. Rather, it was because we had idolized him, as a person who had the sincerity and the guts to stand out amidst others by sheer talent and perseverance. It was difficult to digest the fact that he had to give up, and somehow it felt as if not his, but our hopes were crushed, especially if we wished to unchain ourselves from the expected and go for the unexpected. A “Cognitive Revolution“ as mentioned by Daniel Goleman , is due for our society, an era where we are sensitive towards people whom we come across and can fathom the depths of others’ emotions. Everyone has a responsibility of trying to create a Psychologically secure & hospitable environment for the people in their family or at work. This could be facilitated by constant communication, and in some cases Mind-mapping. At the same time, we need to ensure sound mental health by not pushing ourselves into pressure zones or undermining our confidence because of others. This year has indeed taught us the value of genuine relationships, and of celebrating life with our loved ones.

Essentially, what we could try to do is that instead of being the suffer-in-silence type, we need to have at least someone, somehow unrelated to us, not from workplace or family, whom we could bare our souls to. We need to make sure; we have an effective support system which helps us sail through unprecedented tough times. Building a proper social network is the need of the hour. We need to be thankful, that there’s a lot to life in the current era where everything is right at our fingertips. Right from Google Blogger to Star maker, there’s anything and everything that you could possibly explore. There’s a lot to contribute and explore in a single lifetime anyway. So, lets not have anyone or anything get under our skin and steer through life happily and gracefully!!!😃

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